I have always wanted to feel comfortable whilst doing the mirror work that I read about as a teenager in Louise Hay’s ‘You can heal your life’ but never really gave the mirror work a proper go as I felt silly and self-conscious. As a teenager who was awkward and so shy, I really could have benefited from filling up my self-love well.
Now as a 44 year old who has had plenty of rich life, love and relationship experience with others but, more importantly myself, I can comfortably stand in front of the mirror and tell myself that I am beautiful and that I love myself. This is not something I do regularly however. I am writing about it today as I have read ‘Creative Self-love’ by Cheryl Bridges and I gave myself some time to work through some of the exercises in the book, as well as the journal prompts. Reading the book was something that I did as part of a month long self-love campaign that I am part of with other bloggers who are spreading the message of self-love.
When we, as women and especially mothers, give to ourselves last all the time, we wind up feeling resentful of all the love and care and support and nurturing that we give our partners, children, families and friends. We give so much to others that we leave ourselves either till last, or completely out of the picture. When we don’t give love to ourselves, we look for it in other places such as our partner, children, or all the other places that we give it out to.
What we really need to learn is that by starting with ourselves, we can make us happy and then still have so much love to give to others!
If you have been reading my blog for a while you may be able to see a pattern over the last 12 months. I have been on my own journey of self-love discovery and it has lead me to build up my self- worth and also to fill up what I call my ‘self-love well’. I top it up everyday and I always feel loved.
So, back to Cheryl’s book ‘Creative self-love’.
Following are my reflections in my journal after standing in front of the mirror and really looking at myself and telling myself that I love me, and that I am beautiful:
• I pretended I was crazy (as she suggests) as I stood in front of the mirror because this way it felt less awkward and more freeing.
• The more I looked at myself, the more I saw the wisdom in my eyes, and the stories told by the lines in my skin.
• I could see that I am a beautiful woman (just like YOU are!)
• We are all beautiful in our own ways, and we all have so much to give to ourselves and each other.
The power of positive words to build self-love:
Although you might not believe it, sometimes it can feel quite comforting to have an affirmation to say to yourself when you are feeling a bit down or frustrated with the ways things are going in life. I quite like this one: ‘I unconditionally love and accept myself just the way I am’
There are so many. It really just needs to be a lovely message that you want to give yourself to lift yourself up. Danielle LaPorte has some amazing affirmations that she calls #truthbombs. I love them!!
Why don’t you give mirror work a try? Stand in front of the mirror and have a really good look at your face. Talk to yourself and tell yourself that you are amazing, beautiful, strong & awesome!! You won’t believe it, but you will start to notice how you really feel about yourself and this will lead you towards looking at ways you can start to bring some more self-love into your life. Journal about it afterwards and see what feelings come up for you.
Let me know in the comments below, how did this feel for you? Or bookmark this to read later. And, why not share this with others who need a little reminder today of how important their own self-love well is?